When he'd leave a message on her home line, Laura waited at least a day to call back. The waiting game lets you test his willingness to pursue, adds Ellen Kreidman, Ph D, author of The game plan: When you date a guy you dig and get that urge to share your personal experiences, opinions, history...stop!
"You think you're bonding, but he thinks you're an open book to everyone." What you censor — about your exes, family, friends, even your schedule — can be more powerful than what you reveal.
"When I ordered a particular type of wine at the bar, a man to my left remarked on my good taste," she recalls.
"We started talking, and within minutes, Ken came over..didn't leave my side all night." Make him feel like he has to fight for your attention.
Jenny, 24, was able to pique her man's interest by playfully dodging his questions.
"Over dinner, Andy asked me if I was seeing other people.